Is Social Media Even Social?

Is social media even social? Does it make us any more or less social then we already are?

I think that social media has taken a lot out of us or me at least. I know that its nice to look at others lives and how great they put on a show in all the post or tweets but no one knows what they're like behind scene. I feel like social media has taken a lot from how we interact with people or even our friends! I mean when we're with our friends we're always on our phone looking up something to show them or just on it and I'm not saying that its completely bad but when you're with people you should be able to be without your phone for the time that you're with them. I feel like it's taken a lot away from having good conversations with people and being able to get deep and have the conversations where you can be vulnerable with the person and share your heart.

I know from my experience with social media and growing up with it all this time I've gotten so accustom to being on my phone all the time scrolling and scrolling and scrolling on Instagram and twitter because I'm bored and I feel like I have nothing better to do. It sucks and I hate myself for ever letting it get this far. I'm still an outgoing person and can carry on a conversation but it has gotten harder for me to come up with good questions and keep the conversation going sometimes. I've made a rule that if I am with my friend no matter where we are I try not to take out my phone or be on it. I mean that's just rude anyways. You're with your friend and you're choosing to be on your phone instead of giving them your undivided attention while you're together. I get it if you want to take pictures but I feel like you shouldn't be scrolling on insta or looking at others stories on snap. I'm still getting accustom to this because I've let it get out of hand but I promise if I'm with you the only time I'll be on my phone is to take pictures so I can have memories!!

I've decided to take a break from social media because it's gotten to the point where I'm on it all the time and I need to find something better to do with my time. I mean I could be building an even better relationship with my family and friends, I could be spending time in the word getting closer to God, getting to know him better. I could be doing something way more productive than sitting on my phone scrolling and imagining if I had this life like all these people that post everything in my life would be wonderful. Constantly scrolling and seeing all the pictures makes me wish I was married with a family and cute pets to post about. It has got me thinking that what I'm doing in life right now isn't good enough or worth it when its actually just where God wants me to be and I need to trust in Him and the plan he has for my life! I don't want to have a social media life that is surrounded by social media all the time and what other people are doing and how nice there life looks in their pictures but I want to have a real life, one that is surrounded by people that love me and want to know me and vise versa! I want to have real relationships where I can share my heart with you and its not so consumed about what picture we should post on Instagram or what funny thing we should do to post on our story! Don't get me wrong I'm not saying that social media is all bad but I'm saying that all the time we're spending on social media is bad and that its taking away from being able to have real relationships. deep relationships, intentional relationships, meaningful relationships.I think social media is good to have sometime to stay in contact with friends and see certain peoples lives but the fact that we're constantly on it is what is so crazy!

I encourage you all to search and see if social media is taking a huge part in your lives. I mean we learn things from everywhere. We should be concerned with what we're putting in our minds and what we're allowing our eyes to see. Is it GOOD or BAD?? What are we allowing the celebrities to teach us? What are we allowing the world to teach us? and is it something we want to be learning or something that we shouldn't be learning? These are just my thoughts that I've had for a while and I wanted to share this with you all because I think it is a huge problem in our generation and we need to get it under control. I BELIEVE we need to love people more and get to know them, and that will only start when we stop looking down and start looking up and seeing the world and the people in it. That is when we can all come together sharing and caring for each other no matter what the struggle is that you're facing!

I love you all and I challenge you to take a break from social media and reconnect with family, friends, God whomever and whatever you feel like might be getting neglected in your life! I know it will be hard. Once I got off my social media (this is just sad) but I swiped so many times on my phone to login into either my snapchat or Instagram and that's when I realized I have a horrible problem and I need to change it!! I don't want social media to control me or my life and I don't think you want that either!! Love you all SO MUCH!

Forever&Always

P.S. I am so sorry I didn't get this out Sunday night. I've been super busy and kinda lazy this last week. It's kinda hard to get it out on Sunday due to working late Saturday night and if I've had a busy week and haven't pre-written one than that'll make it hard! So I think I'm going to switch and have it come out Sunday during the day before Monday!! Thank you all for being patient with me! (: